What motivates me to write a book

How do you know if you’re reaching the most valuable audience for your book?  I took a writing class a few years ago given by Malcolm Gladwell.  It was an on-line course where Malcolm shared his best tips on writing. If you don’t know Malcolm, he is the author of a number of best-selling books including  The Tipping Point, Blink, and most recently, Revenge of the Tipping Point

One tip I learned in that course was to write the ending first. This tip will help you stay on track writing your book in an efficient way because you know where you are going.  Once you know where you are going it will make figuring out the most valuable audience for your book easier.   

While I understand this tip, and it makes logical sense to me, I personally have a problem with it.  To understand my problem I need to explain what motivates me to write a book.

Unlike many authors, what motivates me to write a book is not knowing—rather than knowing– where I am going and what I want to say.  It is the “not knowing” that makes the journey fascinating and provides my passion for learning through writing. 

What makes this journey particularly difficult is the fact that learning does not come easy for me.  This is at least part of why I am so passionate about it.  I discuss this in Chapter 2 of my latest book, Human Resilience (https://shorturl.at/HGpyo).  I explain how I figured out a way to overcome, at least to a degree,  my learning difficulties. Toward the end of that chapter I say —

“I had become passionate about teaching during my college years largely because I had understood how difficult it had been for me to learn how to learn.  Now I wanted share what I had learned about learning with others. That passion for thinking, learning, and teaching has stayed with me all of my life.”

When I first started writing that book I not only didn’t know where I was going, I wasn’t even thinking the book would ever get published. I actually thought the only audience for that book was myself. When I was explaining this to my chiropractor, he told me that what I was saying reminded him of something John Lennon once said about the way he felt when writing songs. 

Despite feeling this way, I did give the book to a good friend asking him to read it and give me his thoughts. His initial feedback was that it sounded like a memoir and that no one wants to read a memoir about anyone who isn’t famous. His feedback confirmed my own thinking that I should  not publish it. However, that same friend also said he thought there was something in the book that others might benefit from and suggested I change the focus from a memoir to my passion for learning and how I overcame this difficulty.   That led to the 35 life lessons now in the published book. 

Initially many of these lessons were specific to running and I was thinking the right audience for the book, if I ever did publish it, was the running community.  But then I realized that most of the lessons could easily be generalized.  This is actually part of how I learn. I observe specific cases of how things work in the world, then see if I can generalize my observations by applying them to other areas.

Chapter 10 in my book is a good example of this process where I compare resilience in technical and human systems.   I have taken lessons we have learned in building resilient technical systems and applied these lessons to my running to help  me build a more resilient human running system.  In the start of that chapter I say–

“You may be wondering why anyone would want to compare resilience in technical and human systems. The answer is simply because there is something to be learned from the way we are building our next generation of technical systems that humans can use to help live more resilient lives.”

In closing this blog, I want to share one more example of something I learned by writing my latest book that I did not know when I started writing it. In the first sentence of the introduction to the book I ask the question,

“Why would anyone want to run 70 half marathons after reaching 70 years old?”   

When I started writing this book I honestly had no idea what the answer to this question was.  I had been running half marathons every few weeks for the previous 4 years, and was curious about what was motivating this strange behavior.  

One of my reviewers of a pre-released version of the book told me that question intrigued him and he read the whole pre-released version looking for the answer, but never found it. 

That comment caused me to reflect on the question, and it was only then that I realized the answer, and was able to add it to the  Epilogue just before the book was released.

When I started writing that book I thought the audience was only me.  Then I thought it was only runners.

My 35 life lessons are lessons that worked for me in achieving a degree of resilience in my life. My running stories provide examples of the “how.”  I share these stories with the hope that runners and non-runners alike might benefit from them.  If you find only one lesson that helps you, then I will have reached my most valued audience.

This blog post was motivated by feedback from multiple readers of my book during the first 8 weeks after publication who shared with me specific lessons they found valuable to their own life.

The book is now available in four different formats at (https://shorturl.at/HGpyo ), and has received nine 5-star reviews in the first 8 weeks after release. The ebook version is currently on sale for a limited time at 50% off.

My wife turns to me and says…

My wife turns to me and says, “The world has gone crazy.  Why can’t people just let other people live.”  So, I turn to her and say,  “This isn’t new. It’s gone on forever. I’ve thought a lot about it and believe it or not, I finally figured out why.”

Now I’ve got her attention.  I know at this point my answer better be good.  She’s looking right at me.

I continue, “You see, it all started when we were very young and our parents told us the story about this wonderful world we all live in and why we are here, as if they knew why we are here. But they don’t. It’s just a story they made up so kids wouldn’t be scared by the truth.”

She is still looking right at me, so I continue.  

“And the truth is– the thing nobody wants to talk about even after they grow up– the real elephant in the room every moment of everyone’s life—is the fact that none of us know why the hell we are here.  So, we grow up, and gradually figure out the truth and then we run around with this feeling all bottled up inside until one moment when we’re sitting in a crowd somewhere and without realizing it we get up and walk across the room and slap someone who doesn’t deserve it.   Or, if we happen to have a little power, we invade our neighbor’s country. The fact is we don’t know what we are doing, and either we are going to kill some one or not.”

Now, at this point I have my wife laughing. So that’s a good thing. 

Later I come downstairs and she’s talking to the dog.   She tells the dog, “I know you are upset because we left you down here all alone for too long.”  You see, our dog who is twelve years old has never been able to kick his separation anxiety.  When we leave him alone for more than an hour he starts to drool over everything in the house.  Or he tips over the garbage can and spreads the garbage all through the house.  I look at my wife as she comforts the dog and think to myself, “the dog doesn’t know why he is here either.”

Our dog

So, what should we do? I’ve heard that figuring out the root of a problem is half-way to the solution.  I found an 8-minute video on the internet by Elon Musk and sent it to my kids and wife.  In the video Musk says, “Life can’t be just about solving problems. There has to be things people find inspiring that make life worth living.” 

Musk also says in the video you have to work super hard, like 100 hours a week. My daughter replied that she found the video thought provoking and inspiring and it made her smile. I expected that because she works 100 hours a week like me.  My son replied saying Elon has some pretty revolutionary ideas for the next few decades and that it should be an interesting ride if he hits his goals.  

So, what’s the answer?  I wish I could tell you that.  But if I did you probably would think it’s just another story like the one your parents told you.  You have to figure out the answer for yourself. Musk ends his talk by telling a graduating class that now is the time to take risks, and do something bold because it’s going to get tougher when you get older.

I don’t know about that. The older I get the bolder I get.  But I hope I don’t get to the point where I find myself slapping someone across the face whether they deserve it or not.  But you better watch out for us old people.  We don’t have as much to lose.

On thinking better

What does it mean to think better?  When I first began my career as a software developer at a company in upstate New York way back in 1973, my first greybeard mentor gave me some advice.  He told me to learn the things that never change because it will give me more time to spend on the new and interesting things when they come along.  That advice stuck with me.

When you think about how much things have changed in the last 50 years with advances in technology and medical research it’s easy to start feeling like what you learned when you were young is completely outdated.   But that isn’t necessarily so.

In my “Quiet Little Town” story, Fred is working on a secret research project  aimed at helping kids think better and make better decisions by placing them in a virtual world where they face difficult, but common life situations.

Today, many high-tech companies are spending hundred’s of millions of dollars on an idea known as the Internet of Things (IOT).  IOT is the modern world of interconnected humans and software-controlled devices intended, along with artificial intelligence, to make our lives easier in the future by helping us solve common everyday problems.

So, a natural question this leads to is:  Will these huge investments in technology and medical research help our future kids think better and ultimately achieve the goal of Fred’s secret project?

Well, as usual, I don’t want to give away what happens in my “Quiet Little Town” story, but let me share a true story that might give you a hint.

In his bestselling book, “Zero to One”, Peter Theil co-founder of PayPal, tells the story of one of Google’s supercomputers that received great reviews back in 2012 when it was able to recognize a cat with 75% accuracy when scanning millions of Youtube videos.  Peter tells us in his book that this technological advance sounds impressive until you step back and think about the fact that a four-year old can do it flawlessly 100% of the time.

The point is that today’s faster computers and artificial intelligence are great at finding patterns in large masses of data, but they can’t hold a candle to a human when it comes to drawing insights from patterns and the ability to think.

The most valuable lesson my old greybeard mentor taught me almost 50 years ago didn’t have anything to do with computer technology or artificial intelligence.  It was how to use my natural human ability to think about a problem in a logical way leading to an innovative solution given a challenging situation.

Perhaps, one of the best things we can teach our kids today is how to use their natural human ability to think critically in common everyday situations.

How to think critically when faced with today’s common everyday challenges is no different than it was 50 years ago, and probably will not be any different 50 years from now.  Thinking critically is how you think better, and it is one of those gifts you can take with you for a lifetime.

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